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First, let's work on you
Dear friends:
First, I’ve noticed that many teenagers feel like they have to be dating someone to be happy. Maybe its for personal satisfaction, or just to be able to say they’re with someone or for the slime balls out there…maybe its just to get “some”. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but I’ve only seen a few couples that are together, where both parties are with each other simply because they enjoy each others company. I also think its ridiculous, to say “I love you” after dating someone for two weeks. If not for any other reason, it takes credit away from the couples who have had to work at their relationship. Under no circumstances, do I believe in love at first sight. It takes conversation, dedication, and more importantly it takes time. Something I’ve learned is love and pain go hand and hand, and you can’t fully experience one without the other. Here’s my suggestion, don’t claim to love someone, until you know exactly what makes them, THEM.
Second, why do some guys feel the need to say things they don’t and never meant? It can be the smallest comments, but sometimes those are what make the biggest impacts. For example, “I don’t care what movie we see, as long as I’m with you.” Or “baby, you’re the only one for me” or my favorite, “I’m with you for you, nothing else matters” I’ve heard these lines so much that now when I hear them, my ears automatically translate them into “bullcrap, bullcrap, BULLCRAP!” Here’s my suggestion, don’t’ say what you don’t mean, because someday, somewhere, someone might actually believe you.
Third…whoa, here comes the big one. SEX. Its been said that guys use love to get sex and girls use sex to get love. Sad thing is, is a lot of relationships are based on just this. My opinions are not based on experience but instead, observation. A lot of my friends sleep around and then later on wonder why it didn’t work out. By no means am I’m saying sex is bad, I’ve just noticed that when it happens to soon, it short circuits other parts of a relationship. People can relate on many different levels -- emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally but when sex happens to soon it can and often does become the main focus, and every other part of the relationship, such as talking, becomes irrelevant. I also noticed when this happens, guys tend to lose respect for the girl and girls start to mistrust the guy. Here’s my suggestion: Don’t have sex until you’re married. Make someone prove they love you, because words can only go so far.
Finally, I am not a shrink, nor do I have any formal education concerning this subject; I’m just an average Joe and these are my observations and opinions. I’ll leave you with this last suggestion, sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. You have your whole life to fall in love, but right now, what matters is you. You’ll never be satisfied with someone else until your satisfied with yourself.
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I can't start to tell you how happy I am to know that someone else out there thinks the same as i do.
i am 15. I have some friends who are so obsessed with being loved by a boy that it drives them crazy. They loss respect for themselves. It makes me sick how a girl can be so unsure with herself that she would do anything for one boy.
I never thought that I would fall in love before I was 25 ish. But it happened. My boyfriend is amazing. He understands me and why i do what i do (im not the most normal person). We have been together 3 and bit months and still he waits for that first kiss. I know that he respects me and what I believe in. Even though he says he loves me and I think he does I always think to myself- "hes one boy. Im 15. I have a long life ahead of me. If this works out great but if it doesn't thats fine too."
I know these are just observations and I know that you don't want to be too be mean. But don't shut yourself down to finding someone nice. They might not last a life time but you could find a great time.
it's like if you don't mean it, don't say it!
Someone's heart is on the line!!
love ya too Rocky Y!
but thanks for the comment! (:
How you use the power of procreation (In other words, SEX ) will determine your eternal happiness. Haver you ever read a book or seen a movie in which the sexy one has a happy ending? I didn't think so.
Most of you think it's ridiculous to wait until after marriage for sex , but I believe different. Most of my friends' parents are separated. Why? They had affairs before they were married. Waiting for your wife will strengthen your relationship with your spouse.
I'm not saying that if you have sex , you'll be miserable forever. I'm just saying that waiting for your right spouse to give yourself to will make you eternally happy.
You totally put my feelings and experiences into words.
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Imagination is more important than knowledge.-Albert Einstein
I really do have to agree with the article. Yes most of the things stated are true, but not in every situation. I mean it's not that I think that I HAVE to have a boyfriend to be happy, but I just know it will distract me from things I need to move on from.
And well the situation with being in love so young, there is not an age number where you fall in love. I am not in any position to say I have been in love, because I do not know what it is. But I do know feelings can become very, very strong. I came to my mom with this discussion awhile back, and she said when you love someone, you just know it. That you know you love them when no matter what they put you through, you'll stand by their side, because you care about them.