The first thing one will hear as one gets closer to adulthood is a statement like “This is how it is in the real world.” That is because once one enters adulthood, one will encounter real world problems such as finances and dealing with problems that may or may not have severe consequences depending on one’s decision. This however, does not mean that people do not deal with problems in the world before adulthood. Problems such as gossip, school, sports, family and puberty are some of the major problems one may go through during adolescence.

My main problem in life though, is dealing with the annoying, aggravating pet-peeves that I often have to deal with everyday. These pet-peeves vary from small to large in severity. A small peeve is when people call a t.v show a movie or a movie a tv show. If I am watching How I Met Your Mother and someone walks in and asks, “What’s this movie called,” my head will instantly implode with anger. I will never say anything about it to them because I do not want to be rude or make them feel idiotic. I will also become angered when someone steals one of my possessions. My sisters often takes my shirts, while peers will occasionally steal my food or even money. I deal with this problem by doing the exact cause of the problem. I will steal it back, sometimes with interest.

A big thing that angers me in sports is when a player hurts one of my teammates, although I often try to resist the temptation of retaliating but depending on the seriousness of the action. During a travel soccer game I had during freshmen year once caused me to head towards retaliation. The game was central New Jersey. The team played dirty and their coach was thrown out during the first half after a series of verbal fights. During the second half was when it almost became physical. A large player and I had been pushing and shoving each other all game. But then he started to pick on my teammate whom was noticeably smaller than him, and he was threatening to fight him. I headed over to step in but my coach screamed at me not to. My body was calm physically, but mentally, my brain was amped up with anger. There were several fouls that game, most of which annoyed and angered me but I never responded. Little annoying things like that I will not reply or get pugnacious about.

The one action one could do to make me reply, is if someone acts sneaky. To be sneaky to me in my opinion, is if one talks behind my back or does something without saying or informing me personally. Such actions will anger me because it reveals how one is disrespectful and a coward. For instance, one time my friend started to gossip and say disrespectful things about my family behind my back to my other friends. His mistake though, was that he said it to my best friend. My friend told me what he said and I was infuriated. Unlike those little pet peeves, I said something to the kid about it. I was not gentle or cautious about it either. I told him straight to his face that he was a coward among other things. He of course got angry but did not carry on the fight, because he knew he could not beat me. I feel though, that he stopped because deep down he knew I was right. He never talked trash behind my back again, well as far as I know.

Pet-peeves will anger me so much that I will want to punch a wall, but the wall is concrete so I will break my hand. If I break my hand then I will be looking like Pierre-Paul for a year and then I will have to stay home all day and get fat. So I tend not to punch walls. That feeling inside me when one of those pet-peeves occurs can consume me. There are certain pet-peeves that I will stay dormant about and others that I will ascertain stops. Aggravation can influence your actions, yet one should find a peaceful way to release that negative energy but if one decides to retaliate, then one should be smart about their actions. The reason why one retaliates is for change, because one has obtained a need for a personal annoyance to end, even though there are better ways to cope with our personal vexations. Sometimes the right thing to do is to assure its prevention.  Everyone one has pet-peeves, and although they may be frustrating, one must decide whether it is worth taking action, or try to cope with the vexation.